Signs You’re Too Nice to Your Soulmate or Twin Flame

Are you too nice to your soulmate or twin flame? It sounds strange doesn’t it?

How could being a nice person be a bad thing?

If it’s detrimental to your soulmate or twin flame relationship, it’s a problem. Do you allow them to do and say things you would never allow anyone else to do or say? Have you been making excuses for them all the time? Do you use your soulmate or twin flame connection status as an excuse or to minimize their bad behavior?

Here are some signs you’re being too nice to a twin flame or soulmate?

1. Using a mystical force to excuse their behavior.

Neither of you take responsibility for your poor choices. You blame the universe. When the relationship is going down the wrong path, you wonder why the universe is doing this to you. The universe didn’t do anything to make this happen. The two of you did.

You have every chance to get it right, you just choose poorly. Neither of you are learning anything but how create bad relationship dynamics. You don’t have to let them off easy and they don’t have to screw up. Or vice versa.

Stop saying “I couldn’t help it” or “they can’t help it.” They can and you can. Enough with the enabling. Don’t put up with it or let them off easy. This is a total cop-out. And it will get neither of you anywhere, except into a dysfunctional soulmate or twin flame relationship.

2. They call all the shots in the relationship.

They can disappear for however long, leaving you wondering what the hell is going on. When they come back, you think telling them how much it hurt you is a worthy punishment. That’s being way too nice. And all that’s going to get you is repeats of the same behavior taken to worse levels over time. The punishment should fit the crime. You’re giving your soulmate or twin flame no consequences all the time and they don’t take you seriously.

3. They’re self-entitled.

If your soulmate or twin flame is the center of your relationship, and you allow it, you’re being too nice to them. Let’s say your partner wants you to wait for them to end their marriage because of the kids. They want you to understand where they’re coming from and sympathize with their situation.

The sacrifices you must make can easily be forgotten or taken for granted. Over time, they want appreciation for the time they spend with you. They forget how you’re the one alone, waiting around for them all the time.

Sure, they may say they understand how you feel. But if they do, why are you the only one being understanding and making the sacrifices? We could see how someone going to jail would ask you to wait ten years for them. But asking you to wait years so they can carry on an affair with you? Because they think their children can’t handle a divorce?

The kids aren’t going to become serial killers or have a social stigma because their parents get a divorce. How come aren’t worried about their kids finding out they had a long-term affair cheating on their other parent? You are being too nice by hanging in there too long, waiting for them to end their relationship. A reasonable amount of time is fine. But when it’s too much time, you’re being too nice.

4. They aren’t there for you when you need them.

If you’re there for them whenever they need you, but they’re nowhere to be found when you need them, you’re being too nice. It’s time you show your twin flame or soulmate what it’s like to be in your shoes.

Talking isn’t going to do it. Just take a page out of their playbook. Stop being there offering support and whatever else they need. They will notice what you take away. So, make them take notice. Make them earn it back by giving back to you.

We know relationships are give and take. Sometimes one is getting more than they’re giving. We are talking an extreme imbalance. When one is doing almost all of the giving, while the other is doing all the taking.

5. You’re the peacemaker, all the time.

If you’re the one who’s the bigger person and always fixes things, you’re being to nice. It’s not your job, especially if they’re the one causing the problems. Stop treating them as if they have a missing gene where they can’t apologize. Everyone on earth can learn to apologize. Knock that excuse off already.

Stop being so impatient for an apology because you’re afraid you’ll never get one. That’s an irrational fear for the most part, and an entirely lame excuse. They’re not a child, they are an adult. You don’t have to do everything for them. Let them learn how to have a better relationship with you, instead of allowing toxic, childish behavior to continue. This is part of their opportunity for growth and to evolve. Don’t take that away from them. It isn’t nice.

In soulmate or twin flame relationships, there are common sense rules that should be followed. Being too nice, allowing yourself to become a doormat, is not one of them.