Dating after a divorce can reveal baggage from past relationships.
All spiritual partners develop their relationship skills from past relationships. If either of you had a problematic marriage, you may bring those dynamics into your current relationship.
For the most part, when people marry, they don’t think their marriage will end in divorce. Sometimes they just do.
But now they’ve met the love of their life and they’re afraid it may be too much too soon. They also may have developed really bad habits. These bad habits will work their way into your twin flame or soulmate relationship.
They learned how to deal with fighting, drama and chaos from their past relationships. Just because they start a new one with you, doesn’t mean those habits and behaviors will go away. A new way of handling stress, disagreements and problems must be learned.
AFRAID TO TRUST THE CONNECTION
After a painful divorce, being vulnerable is scary. Although their heart runs away with itself, fears remain in their mind. What if this relationship grows distant or ends like their last one? Thoughts such as these are bound to pop up at some point. We don’t easily forget heartbreak and don’t wish to go through it again.
When you’re dating a soulmate or twin flame after a divorce, you may have to deal with sabotage. Some people resort to sabotage in an effort to keep the relationship from progressing. The closer the couple becomes, the greater the fear of getting hurt.
The connection is so strong and the feelings run so deep. Yet still there’s a lingering worry it’s too good to be true. They’re waiting for the shoe to drop and the wait is stressful.
DON’T FORGET THE KIDS
That is not the only challenge when you’re dating a twin flame or soulmate after a divorce. There could be children involved. Mixing children into new relationships can be tricky. Even adult children may not like the idea of their parent seeing someone new.
They (or you) could have dysfunctional relationships with these children. Be sure to set some personal boundaries so you can manage your relationships with both your children and your partner. Make sure those relationships are both in a good place before mixing the two. Otherwise you can expect nothing but disaster.
It will be a transition bringing a new relationship into your family dynamics. Keep in mind the healthier your relationships, the smoother the transition will be. At first, keep the relationships separate, and don’t be in such a rush to force everyone together.
Let your spiritual relationship develop organically. Enjoy the dating process. Too many people jump from dating right into a relationship. In doing so they rob themselves of a magical, romantic experience.
Take your time dating after divorce.
When a soulmate or twin flame couple is dating, it’s one of the most romantic times in their union. They enjoy getting to know each other, missing their each other when they are not there and the butterflies experienced during their dates. Why rush through all of that? Enjoy the newness, the excitement, and the getting to know one another journey.
We know it is hard, but try to keep things from moving way too fast. After experiencing the pain of divorce, rushing into another serious long-term relationship can make someone panic and freak out big time. Some become runners. Some people who have been divorced vow to never marry again.
But you know what they say about soulmates and twin flames : Never say never!!