Narcissists cannot be soulmates or twin flames. It would not make sense for the universe to create a spiritual connection between two people who will never work out.
Every soulmate and twin flame offers the opportunity for the relationship to work out. Otherwise, what is the point? There is none.
But if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist you are living in hell on earth.
Narcissists are people who constantly belittles you at the drop of a hat. A narcissist makes you feel like a peasant while they are a queen or king to be waited on by you. You spend every waking moment catering to their every wish, while all your wishes never come true.
Narcissists don’t care about your wishes, hopes, dreams, feelings, judgment or needs. A narcissist only cares about their own. And they demand you do as well or you will pay the price. The word narcissist is thrown around too often. Some people can just be selfish and self centered. They may also be manipulative to those around them. They can change, while a narcissist cannot.
BUT NOT THIS…
Very often in soulmate and twin flame relationships behavior can go way overboard. This creates an imbalance within the relationship. One party is going overboard, while the other is doing the bare minimum. If this pattern of behavior goes on too long you have one spiritual partner giving too much, while the other is giving way too little.
But this is not because of a personality disorder. This is because of a bad relationship dynamics created by two people. If your soulmate or twin flame is selfish and self centered, take a look at yourself for a minute. Do you shower them with affection and attention? Are you always available for them? Do you give in all the time to keep the peace? Do you focus on making them happy so much that you forget to pursue your own happiness?
You play a part in this to let it get out of hand. Now look at why you did it. Was it because you love them so much or because you’re afraid of losing them?
It’s time to create change, and quick. Before this gets any worse.
Now, your soulmate or twin flame isn’t going to like you making change. They have it made so why should they?
They love having everything revolve around them. It’s a great relationship for them, it just sucks for you.
So it’s time to put yourself first since they won’t. Expect some resistance from them, but stand firm. Stop making excuses for them and stop coming from a place of fear.
Pull back your time, energy and attention.
Take it off of them, and put it on yourself, since they won’t. Do what you want to do without them. Stop spending as much time with them if they keep choosing to only do things they want to do. Cut back on calling them if you always have to be the initiator of everything. Don’t change your plans with others to accommodate them.
If they won’t accompany you somewhere, go without them and/or with someone else, like a friend or family member. If you want the focus to be on you sometimes, and want balance in your relationship, it all starts with you. You have put out the message to your soulmate or twin flame that you are okay with it being all about them. It’s time you sent another message, that if they want all the good things that you bring to the table, they have to bring something as well.