Dysfunctional relationships between soulmates and twin flames are common.
This is not, of course, what the universe intends.
There’s a powerful connection between soulmates and twin flames. The strength of that connection should keep the couple on the straight and narrow. Soulmates and twin flames need to keep moving forward on a spiritual path. If they veer off that path, the relationship becomes a dysfunctional mess.
The question is, can you fix dysfunctional relationships?
There are many factors that determine the answer to that question.
The first step is to recognize that you’re in a dysfunctional relationship. It doesn’t matter that there’s spiritual connection between you. A soul connection won’t fix dysfunctional relationships all by itself. That’s the responsibility of the two people in the relationship. They break it, they need to fix it. The universe is going to sit it out until they do. So don’t wait around for them to help you!
THE FIRST STEP IS ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
Quite frankly, it surprises us, how many folks believe they’re in a healthy relationship due to their connection alone. There’s a myth that spiritual relationships can’t be dysfunctional, because the universe will never create that.
The universe wouldn’t create a dysfunctional relationship. Now that part is true. But the universe only supplies the connection. They’re not responsible for the quality of the relationship itself. So stop asking why the universe is doing this to you. They’re not doing anything to you. You two are doing this to each other.
Soulmates and twin flames take their connection to create a relationship. They’re the ones who decide if there should be boundaries and if they will enforce them. They either pay attention to red flags or ignore them. So, if their relationship is out of control, without boundaries or respect, it’s their fault.
A stable relationship has boundaries, two way communication, mutual respect and stability. A dysfunctional relationship has the opposite. When you realize your relationship has drama, chaos and unhealthy dynamics, it’s time to accept you’re in a dysfunctional relationship.
Once you acknowledge you’re living a dysfunctional mess, you need to see what you can do to turn it around. Forget about waiting for your soulmate or twin flame to have an epiphany of some sort. Some dysfunctional relationships can’t be saved because it reaches the point of no return. Don’t wait for yours to get to that point before you do something about it.
BRING AN END TO THE CRAZINESS
Stop fighting with your spiritual partner for every little thing. Choose your battles wisely. And please consider a counselor to help resolve issues between the two of you.
Don’t allow resentments and old trauma to destroy the relationship. If you’re really willing to give the relationship a chance, you have to let go of the past and past behaviors. No more repeating the same mistakes.
Take control and begin to create change in your relationship, instead of waiting for change to happen.
Don’t make excuses because it’s a soul connection. A soul connection is no excuse for allowing yourself to be mistreated or for you to mistreat your partner.
Stop stooping to lower behavior. It’s time to empower yourself to get the relationship you want.
Just say no to being treated like a doormat, taken for granted or verbally abused.
Stop waiting for them to decide to commit. Now may be time for an ultimatum. You may have to let go of them until they are willing to commit.
Don’t obsess when your relationship will go to the next level. You have to fix things at your current level first. Unhealthy relationships don’t go to the next level, they go backwards. So until you fix it, sure, you could move in together or get married, but it won’t change anything. If anything it will make things worse. You can have a dysfunctional dating relationship that becomes a dysfunctional marriage.
Just because you’re in a soulmate or twin flame relationship you don’t have to endure it when things go south. So many times folks sacrifice their own personal happiness by staying because they’re with their partner. Neither of you are learning your lessons. There is no growth for either of you. You have both gotten off your spiritual paths. How can you create anything good here? You can’t and you won’t.
Some dysfunctional relationships can change for the better.
If yours is one of them, what are you waiting for? Haven’t you suffered enough?
Instead of acting out, take action. If you want things to change in your relationship you have to take the first step.